Trauma Awareness
Part Two
A hman tiah kan ruah nain a hman thlu lo mi
Stereotype / Myths
It is only about Physical Abuse (Kutthlak lawng hi abuse a si)
Physical Abuse hi laimi nih Domestic Violence ah kan hmuh cem mi cu a si.
Abusers usually start with emotional, financial, verbal, or sexual control to test boundaries and gain dominance.
(Uk duh tu nih cun a kut-thlak hlan ah lungthin lei in siseh, hmurka lei in siseh, phaisa lei in siseh, a rak nehsawh tuk cang)
Abuse happen because of substance use, anger or stress (Uk duh tu a thinhan, a lungretheih le zu a din deuh lawng ah abuse hi a cang)
People say, “He only does it when he drinks — it’s the alcohol.”
(Mi nih cun zu a din lawng ah pei kut-thlak a hman ko cu an ti tawn…)
Substance use, anger, or stress may trigger or worsen incidents — but they do not cause abuse.(Zu nih a thinhannak kha fawideuh in a chuahterkho men ko nain a kut-thlak mi zia hi cu, zu a din ruang ah a siloh
People makeup stories of abuse for revenge, money, attention, or advantage in court
(Mi zaangfahnak duh ruang, court ah tei duh ruang le phaisa tampi ngah duh ruang ah a hmaan lo in thil puh an hmang)
In reality, research shows false reports of abuse are rare — most survivors underreport, minimize, or even hide the abuse out of fear, shame, or concern they won’t be believed.
(A ngaingai ti ah cun a tuartu nih hin mi nih an ka nehsawh sual lai ti phan ruang ah le a nunnak caah a thin a phan ruang ah a phuang duh lo tu an tam)
*False report rate of 0.02%
(A tu tiang ah hin a hman lo in report a tuah mi hi 0.02% lawng a si rih)
Only women are victims of abuse
(Nu lawng hi abuse a tuar tu an si. Pa cu an tuar lem loh)
Citation: CDC’s National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey
1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men experience intimate partner abuse in their lifetime.
(Nu pathum ah pakhat hi abuse an ton ban tuk in pa pali ah pakhat hi abuse an tong kho ve)
Many don’t report because of shame, disbelief, or pressure to “be strong.”
(Pasal thakansi hau timiruahnakruang ah le ningzahtuar duh lo ruang ah report tuah lo mi pa an tam pi
Emotional / Psychological Abuse
Power and Control
(Lungthin / thluak lei in ukduhnak)
•Intimidation (thihphaihnak)
•Smashing items or vandalizing property
(a hraam hraam in thilhrawh, bel kheng den)
•Displaying weapons (hriamnam langhter)
•Withholding or destroying important legal documents like passports, residence cards, etc.
(mipem: cozah theihpimi a si rih lo mi kha an passport te hna lak piak)
•Using children (fa le hmang in tlerhkhawnh)
•Embarrasses them in front of others / body shaming / makes them look bad
(mi leng hmai ah capo biatak in nupi le va le kha sawi)
•Possessiveness / Jealous control - Isolate partner from friends and family
(ngeitu lungput/ nahchuaknak – nupi le va le kha an chung le an hawi le he um ter duh lo, mah chung le lawng he um ter peng)
•Silent Treatment as Punishment
(ingpuan i holh duh lo in i cei seh ti in un hnawh)
Verbal Abuse
Power and Control
(Hmurka lei in ukduhnak)
Using harassment, insulting, scolding, excessive yelling, and/or derogatory statements to frighten, intimidate, humiliate, or belittle someone
•(Zei rel lo, nihsawh, serhsat) Insults and Humiliation: “You’re worthless.” “No one else would want you.”
•(Tahchunhnak) Comparisons: “Why can’t you be like ___?”
•(Hmurka phih, daihter) Silencing: “Shut up, you don’t know anything.”
•(Vawlhpamh) Cursing: Excessive yelling/cursing to humiliate or frighten.
Financial Abuse
Power and Control (Phaisa lei in ukduhnak)
Controlling, sabotaging, or manipulating a person’s finances and/or opportunities.
•Does not let partner work
(Nupi le va le kha rian tuan ter lo)
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•Controlling all the money
(Phaisa lei ah kei mah duh ning lawng in siseh ti ruahnak)
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•Forcing partner to work and pay for everything
(Nupi le va le kha an mah lawng thideng mang in rian tuan ter i mah nih tuan duh lo)
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•Taking out loans or credit in partner’s name
(Nupi le va le theih lo in leiba cawi le bank ah credit card an mah min in sawk)
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•Mah lei chung lawng phaisa kuat
Physical Abuse
Power and Control (Kut-thlaak, velh hmang in ukduhnak)
Any act or threat of physical force intended to cause harm, instill fear, or control a partner.
•Threats of physical violence (Tlerhkhawnh)
•Depriving of basic needs or health care
(Minung pumsa herh mi ruah piak duh lo)
•Physical Neglect (Daithlan)
•Slapping, punching, kicking, shoving, physical restraints
(Bengh, thongh, chuih, ti ban tuk…)
•Confinement – Locking someone in a room, blocking exit
(leng chuak kho lo in inn chung ah erh)
•Use of weapons (Hriamnam hman)
•Stalking - tracking phones (GPS), social media, or recording
(a thlite in zulh, mawtaw ah GPS bunh, theih lo lio ah phone zoh, theih lo in aw/video recording tuah)
•Choking or strangulation (thawchuah kho lo in hrom dih)
